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Dating, today and yesterday Many singles and online dating newcomers have to fight the same shyness that is preventing them from talking to a foreigner in a bar or club when they message their first online contact they want to get in touch with. After pressing the send button on the webpage the heartbeat goes up. Seconds, minutes, maybe hours of waiting filled with anxiety, fear, excitement and pleasant anticipation are following on the heels of this first step. Quite often the question - if it is normal to be in a situation in which you seriously start thinking about making use of an online dating website - is the reason for this prejudice. Locking back into history that question can be negated, because there is nothing new at searching for a partner using a media like newspapers, radio or television. Only the possibilities and methods became more abundant. In the 1920s advertising for a partner in printed newspapers was not uncommon by then. The open minded community in Berlin for example was a very fruitful and engaging public and no one would have thought badly about such a way of engagement. In Great Britain during the 1930s dating advertisements became popular as an attempt to find men motivated to marry women in the British Crown Colonies. In the Ukraine women had partner-brokers for hundreds of years by then, boosted by Gutenberg's development of the letterpress. And after both world wars at the beginning of the 20th century it sometimes was the only way to find a matching partner to establish a new family with. It is therefore certain that dating is no new-fangled trend. Dating in the 21st century could be better described as the evolution of partnering, throwing off the shackles of old traditions for which it was more important that the matching partner suited mom and dad instead of leading to a fulfilling life as a couple. In most western societies this kind of tradition has become obsolete and even in many oriental countries where it still can be very common that women are not able to make their own choices, the internet is changing how dating happens. If looking at dating services and online dating services in particular, one has to separate the big portals and the smaller service agencies, because they work differently. The big online portals try to provide a platform on which people can get in touch with each other as simple and quickly as possible, while maintaining the authenticity of the user profiles. Small agencies or dedicated partner-brokers, exclusively serving a limited amount of customers and often a limited number of countries they try to bring together. The best professionals in the last mentioned league are those that for instance grew up in Poland, knowing the mentality of the people and later on studied in Germany. Followed by an integrated life with the own family in this new homeland. This kind of broker only pairs off people he knows face to face and can be sure with that he will be able to convey them in the future. The success rate of a serious partner-broker is comparable to a good real estate broker. Both do their job with passion trying to find the best solution for their customers who may tell friends about such a satisfying success. The big websites work differently. They more likely act like a network through which people can try to find potential partners that match their own personality. These websites concentrate on assuring that every single profile; every single customer is a real human, acting trustfully. Preventing disappointing blind-dates that happen due to misbehavior, bad manners or almost criminal acts like stalking, must be prevented and those people must get banned from their network as soon as anyhow possible. The main goal is so to say to create an environment of trust in which people can meet and find out if they match.
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Editor-in-chief "Golden Ring of RUNET" - Andrey Alferov | ||
